ON-LINE DATING ON-THE-ROAD!
I am incredibly happy and love my independence. Being single definitely has its perks, but I definitely wouldn't mind being "coupled" again someday. I'm certainly in no hurry, and I believe that is evident in the fact that I quit my job and set out on a cross country adventure alone with my dog. I am temporarily homeless and living in a camper, which looks more like a pimped out dog kennel. I do eventually want to meet that perfect guy. He's rugged, passionate, ambitious and adventurous. Do you know him? He's a man's man, but likes women. haha OMG I crack myself up. Anyway, I couldn't sit around and wait for him. I needed to LIVE my life and do things for me that I'd been putting off. I'll meet him some day and when I do, I'll never look back and "wish" there were things in my life I'd done, because I'm doing them. AMEN!
So I got to thinking, it couldn't hurt to go online and see who's "out there" (literally, across the country). I've been on Match before and as long as you don't take it too seriously, it's quite entertaining and who knows you could actually meet someone. Sure you might have to "block" the occasional stalker, but thankfully it's an option.
It's been a couple of weeks and I've chatted with some pretty cool guys online, albeit both from NYC so that doesn't help me right now. Regardless, it's still refreshing to chat with nice guys on here so you never know!
Here's a note to men out there that may want to give online dating a shot. Online dating doesn't carry the stigma it once did a decade ago, so why not give it a shot. I just look at it as expanding your dating pool. I know I'm speaking for all women when I say this,... keep your initial email short, sweet and clean! No weirdo comments about "spooning" or wanting to be someone's "chocolate lover"! YOU WILL BE BLOCKED! (and yes, someone did reference wanting to be my chocolate lover.
Below is an example of what to say in your introductory email to a girl, and the other is what you NOT to say.
OK men, listen up –
This is an example of a normal, cool email...
"How is your trip going? What part of Ca. are you going to? I live in Denver, but am in the process of moving next week to Sacramento, actually it's 20 miles outside of Sac. in the foothills. But anyway, if I hear back from you great if not have a good trip."
This is a nice, normal man. I don't think we'd have cute babies but that's besides the point, at least he was normal.
This is an example of what NOT to say... this is only an excerpt, the entire email was at least a page.
"And, finally, I'm very sensual. My dream date ends with cooking someone special breakfast _ my 'huevos moltulenos'...and I love playing spoons.
Seriously, did this guy really write this to me and think I would respond. You don't talk about being "sensual", "breakfast" and was he actually referencing the game of spoons or "spooning"?? EK! Either way, this entire email made me dry heave.
Oh, and here's one more bit of advice. READ the girl's profile before you send your email!!! C'mon people. Keep in mind I am completely honest in my profile and say that I quit my job and I'm traveling across the country.
Clearly this man did not read my profile. I think he just copy and pasted an email to me...
Great pics and profile. Sooo you showed up as my "perfect match" yesterday which I'm pretty sure is a good thing? :) And after reading your profile, I thought we did indeed have some things in common.... Haha... Sooooo, here's to hoping you like the tall, witty, confidant, loves to laugh and tries to stay in shape type :). Let me know if you're interested in chatting or grabbing a drink after work one night."
Hey smart guy, how can I grab a drink after work one night when I don't have a job or live in NYC? Read Read Read. Girls appreciate that, I swear. He's definitely what I call a copy and paste bandit. He's the guy that's all about volume so he types the same email and copies it into a zillion emails.
I have so so so many more awesome and scary emails archived! lol